Monday, May 15, 2017

"Your Father Remembers"

Sunday, Mother's Day, has come and gone.  It always seems to be this inflated holiday that never quite lives up to all the hype that surrounds it.  I have learned to tame the hype in my head.  I have learned that life does not always bring a big party for Mother's Day or any day for that matter.  The real problem I have now is not that I want a big party or have any high expectation for my husband or kids, rather I have this desire for everyone to remember and recognize that I am missing Charlie.  After all, he is one of my babies.  He is my third baby.  He is one of the reasons I am a mom; the reason I get to celebrate Mother's day in such a special and unique way.    

So this weekend I had one sweet dear friend from college write me a quick note on Facebook that said, "...missing Charlie with you."  My heart burst open and I was suddenly overwhelmed by that note.  My heart was happy and my head was full of memories of my boy that were released when I knew someone missed him with me.  I told her thank you for thinking of him and I briefly explained that some days I feel like I am the only one that remembers him.  In as simple a response as she sent the first time she said, "...your Father will never forget."  It was then that I stopped and brought it all before my Heavenly Father and said, "Remember with me God."

It was another Mother's Day without one of my babies but I was happy to remember all the memories I have of him with my Heavenly Father.  I was happy to get time with someone that knows the deepest, darkest parts of my heart.  It was the perfect end to my Mother's Day.  It was a good day.    


Thursday, April 27, 2017


There have been times over the past almost three years when I have felt so close to Charlie or the memory of him that I wished time would stand still.  It is nearly impossible to describe the feeling, but this evening was one of those times.  There was not a specific "special thing" that came from him or reminded me of him, it was just a fleeting moment that was gone before I could actually cherish it completely.  I was driving home, crossing the bridge, going back into Kentucky, and the perfect song started on my shuffled playlist from my phone.

I started crying and immediately felt this urge to turn around and try to experience it again.  I knew even if I had turned around and timed it all perfectly I wouldn't be able to experience that specific moment again.  I wouldn't feel Charlie.  I wouldn't connect with him in the same way because those special moments in time are rare.

While they are few and far between, they are what keeps me going.  They give me hope to move through another day because I know I can look forward to the glimpses of the little boy that I lost.  God lets me feel a closeness to Charlie that I am not even adequately able to put into words.

Thursday, March 23, 2017


I really enjoy reading and ever since Charlie died I haven't been able to focus long enough to finish a book.  I would let my mind wander and read large chunks of books and have no idea what had happened so I just took a break.  I recently picked up a book and finished the entire thing.  I was really excited.  A little piece of me was coming back.  As soon as I realized I could read an entire book and enjoy it I decided to set a goal.  I wanted to be able to read one book a month.  Keeping in mind teaching and being a mommy and wife don't leave much time to have a hobby I decided that was a fair place to start.   I started in January and have been on par since.  The most recent book I finished reading was Wonder by R.J. Palacio.

As I began the book I had high expectations.  I knew the premise and had heard so many friends rave over the book and all that it encompassed even while being restricted (labeled) by young adult fiction.   As I began I learned more about the main character that I had not known before reading it.  The boy in the story, August Pullman, has a facial difference that kept him out of school.  He was homeschooled and spent large amounts of time in his home.  The unique part of this story is how it begins being told from Auggie's perspective at the start of the story.  He explains what he sees and how he feels when he goes through his day to day life and as he transitions to a new life as a student in a school.  The viewpoint then changes and throughout the story as we learn more about Auggie and his family we hear from his classmates, his sister, his sister's boyfriend, and others.  

There is one point in the book where Auggie is dressed in a costume for Halloween.  His friends all thought he was going to be dressed as something entirely different.   When he walked into class that day he was able to be completely invisible and hear the things the people around him said when they thought he was not around.  It broke my heart to read what they were saying.  I wanted to reach into that book and explain to those boys that the words they were using were going to stay in his heart and mind forever.  I really have a love hate relationship with that part in the story.  It is what kept me reading.  It is also what made me almost want to stop.  It is what I feel like students everywhere need to read.  I believe they need to understand life in someone else's shoes from someone else's perspective.  

Overall, I would give it a thumbs up.  I was a unique read and worth the short amount of time it takes to finish.  If you have a heart for people, you will have a heart for Auggie.  He will make you think about how you look at someone and/or respond to someone with special needs.      

Sunday, March 5, 2017

Happy Sunday

Today I had to let go of the many things I "needed" to do so that I could rest.  I received God's loving gift of rest on the Sabbath and I really enjoyed my day.  It was good to spend some time in that place today.  

We started our day with church this morning.  It was good to continue to dig deeper into our current journey series.  Brian spoke about our identity and how we find it.  He explained that if we want to find our true identity we have to go to God.  We have to spend time with our Heavenly Father in order to truly find our purpose and receive our gifts.  Finding our identity brings power and transformation.  I'm looking forward to this week's app work.  I can't wait to see where it leads us.

The twins have this new thing where they always whine as we walk out the door for church.  I'm not sure where it comes from, but as soon as we're on our way they are all smiles.  Today after church I asked John and Macy what they learned.  I got an earful (which I love) about Moses and how Jesus protected Moses.  They told me almost the entire story.  As we were leaving Johnny said, "Mom, church isn't so bad.  I really like it every time I come." I am glad they are comfortable.  I am glad they learn about Jesus and can recite truths about who they are and who Jesus is to them.

We left church and stopped at Sam's to pick up a couple of things.  We also got the car washed and stopped for lunch.  When we came home I sat outside with the twins while they rode their bikes in the driveway for a bit.  I finished a couple of additional chapters in the book Wonder by R.J. Palacio.

Once we came inside, the twins grabbed a snack and we sat together on the couch to "rest."  I'm the mean mom that made them rest today, on this beautiful day.  John walked in not long after and I tagged out.  I closed my eyes on the couch and fell asleep for a good long nap while the running up and down the hall began upstairs.  It was glorious.  I don't have a newsletter written for school tomorrow (which means an early morning for this girl), but that nap. Glorious.

This evening we spent time with great new friends.  We ate pizza and cookies and we let the kids run wild.  Thank you Russells!  When you have four year old twins, you don't typically have a lot of time alone with friends.  It was a great break and so fun to talk with adults!

I am now reflecting and readying myself for the week.  It will be a long one, I'm sure, but it will end with a girl's trip to Nashville!  I can't wait to see my APT C girls!  Happy Sunday!  
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